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 A couple of months ago, when I reached a certain milestone in my quit, I posted a message in a public forum, and got some surprising results.  In my message, I made sure to mention a friend who had helped me a lot, and to offer thanks for that help.  My friend replied that I should not thank anyone, that the only person who can make me quit is me.  I felt a little deflated by that reply, and I just stopped posting to that forum.

Now, I do think that it is true that no one can quit for us – we have to do the work for ourselves.  However, I also know that when you have a friend who knows what you are going through, and cares if you succeed, it makes things so much better.  Who else really understands what quitting means, or how hard you work, or what it takes to stay quit?  Who else is always on your side, and remembers your milestones before you tell them?  With most other people, they soon forget you are still in a fight for your life.  Your quit-buddy never forgets.

Shortly after that milestone, I had some real significant changes happen, and have not been following my usual habits.  I have not maintained the relationship I had with the friend who really helped me save my quit.  That is my fault.  I have more to work on besides not smoking.  In addition, I hope to get back in touch and stay there with my friend.  I will see if that bridge is burned or not.  I hope not.  I do not have so many friends that I would not notice the loss; I have felt that loss very much.

The same reasons I have not been blogging very much lately apply to staying in touch with my friend.  I want to change both situations because both the blog and my friend are good for me.  I regret that I have not made more of an effort to stay connected; it is not as if it is too hard.  So I refocus and work harder now.  That’s the plan.

Many things have changed for me, and this is one area where the change was for the worst.  I can do better, and I will.  I know it is me that needs to be a better friend, and not shut people out.  I will work on that.

Zzyxx

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